I am embarrassed to admit that I have not truly negotiated a salary. Discussing money makes me uncomfortable and negotiating salary makes me feel greedy. You would think that I could make an exception for a process that happens (hopefully) once in a blue moon, but so far I have not done a good job. Especially in my last job change...
The sad thing is that I knew they weren't really interested in anyone else and I was not desperate to change jobs. I wanted the job but was not in a dire situation and could have easily turned down the offer if it was unacceptable. When it came time to discuss what they wanted to offer I folded quickly and wanted to end the conversation. I made a small effort to say I wanted a higher salary (I took a pay decrease to change jobs, but it was worth it) and was pretty much told we would be able to discuss a raise when I finished training for this new position. To be honest, it didn't happen they way I was promised but because I liked my boss at the time and felt like he was doing all he could I let it go. Based on the lifestyle of one of my coworkers hired at the same time as me I am pretty confident he DID negotiate his salary. He had more time in the industry as me but equivalent or really less experience in the job we are doing now. I do feel like I make less than my male counterparts but this is based on a hunch, not facts and to be honest, I think it is my fault.
I hope that based on conversations with everyone on this topic I will feel comfortable and confident speaking with my manager about a raise at my next review. It can't hurt to ask, right?
-Young Lady
It is not an easy thing to talk about. I've found it helpful to practice uncomfortable conversations prior too the real deal ( with friends, coworkers, bosses) mostly when I am alone in my car for convenience purposes.
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